Edward Ngo

This is another case that was prosecuted in Harris County, Texas.  We want people to know something before reading this story.  Our family has known this young man for many years.  We are the family of Robert McClendon, also featured on this website.  After Robert's arrest, prosecution and conviction in Harris County, Roger, Robert's brother, went to visit Edward and his wife.  Roger told them what transpired between Christine, Paula and Robert and how Harris County maliciously prosecuted Robert.  After reading this story, you will notice the similarities of the events, where Edward's wife alleged Edward assaulted her with a deadly weapon, namely a gun, and Harris County maliciously prosecuted him.  Take note also, Edward has never owned or, handled a gun.  He knows nothing about a gun, muchless how to even use one. 

We met and lived with each other for 6 months before we married in 2003. Before we get marry we get permissions from both sides of the parents. My father and her mother did talk about our Vietnamese culture and what both sides expected of us to do in order to have a good marriage and build a life time commitment together.

My dad talked to her mother and said he doesn’t care who my wife is or what my wife did in her past; all he asked was that person that I will be my wife have never had a relationship before. Her mother responded that my wife to be never has a relationship before. My dad also told my future mother in-law that I never have any relationship before as well. Both sides agreed for us to get marry.

We married and everything happy. We planned to have kids after living together for almost 2 years. We also agreed to have my wife’s mother come over from Canada to help us out with the kid or kids. Everything planned and we brought our adorable son Dayton into our lives. We lived in an apartment for about 6 months and we bought a house after that. My wife is great. We joke around, sharing everything together, no barrier what so ever.

During these good times, my wife shared with me that she has had a previous romantic relationship with a person in Canada for 5 or 6 years before she marrying me. I don’t care and I told my wife that it is us now. I just want us to be happy and raising our son Dayton. Your past doesn’t matter to me. Just live with me for the rest of your life and loving each other and build the family. I told her I love her very much. My love for her is unconditional and endless.

Her mother and my wife not sharing the true past to my parents, to me at first when we decided to marry. However, I don’t care I never let that bother me, but this is an insult to my parents, to my Vietnamese’s culture, and to me. I love her unconditionally and never want to know what she had done in the past and what she has had in Canada. She came over here empty handed and I married her because I love her that is all I care.

Dayton joined our lives on December 10^th of 2004. Her mom came over and help us caring for Dayton. Dayton spent most of his life (99%) with me and my wife. He slept in our bedroom and we take turns caring for him. So lovely and happy. We talked to him and communicated every night and played with him. He is 4 years old right now, but he has a brain capacity of a 5 or 6 years old. He can turn on computer, browse the web, and go online playing kids’ games. He can turn on computer and launching games applications and play them.

We are doing great and everyone happy for us. Everyone put everything in the past and just think of our future ahead with our beautiful son, Dayton. Our relationship is going great. Her mother  is happy and very happy living with us. We are a great couple. One day my wife shared with me a great compliment from her own mother’s mouth to me. She told that her mom said I am a great husband and a great dad. I am very happy to hear that. I promised my wife I will do whatever it take to make our family happy and wanting to live the rest of my life with her. I love my wife and Dayton so much. We started discussed about having another child and the final one. Dayton will be lonely without a brother or sister. So decided to have Vivian, our daughter.  I am very very excited and happy. We do have a few issues but nothing extreme and we still are able to communicate together and get things resolve. We are faithful to each other and I never doubt about it.

The first day Vivian came home from the hospital she had been spending the rest of her life time with my mother in-law. Vivian is different from Dayton. She never spend time with us. I don’t like that. I asked my wife many times to bring Vivian back into our lives. She is our daughter and I need to be responsible for her. Mother is old and we need to let her rest.  She can “help” taking care of Vivian and Dayton during the daytime with my wife. I mentioned “HELP” not sole responsibilities for my daughter. However, I had observed Vivian is solely my mother’s in-law responsibilities. Vivian is basically my mother in-law’s daughter not my or my wife’s daughter. Vivian with my mother in-law 99.99% of the time. That’s not fair for my aging old mother in-law. Also, somehow I lost my wife as well. My wife spending most of times with her mother. During the time my mother in-law caring for Vivian, my mother in-law talking on the phone constantly with her sons in Vietnam, Canada, daughters in California. My phone at home is like an answering service. I had observed my mother concentrating more on talking on the phone then caring for my daughter.  I worked about 10 minutes from my house and many times I went home because I missed my kids. Many times I got home I saw my mother in-law talking on the phone and leaving my daughter and son with foods and toys and let them do whatever they want.  No adult supervision. Rice ball on carpet. Foods messes in my rooms and every rooms in the house. I talked to my wife but she never does anything about it. Until December of 2008, Vivian is almost 3 years old but she cannot says one complete sentence in either Vietnamese or English. I don’t know if the reason Vivian cannot talk or develop verbal skill have anything to do with the fact my mother in-law doesn’t talk or care for my daughter the same way me and my wife caring for Dayton. Compare to Dayton, Vivian very very slow in term of developing. I cannot be with them 24/7 because I am working to support my family. My wife has more times with the kids and her mother then I do. I helped my wife with her school works in terms of quizzes and writing assignments on many occasions.

From maybe March of 2006 until May of 2008, during the times my mother in-law taking control of Vivian and I lost my wife. I have talked countless times how serious the problems will be if we don’t do anything about. My wife seems doesn’t care and continue let things happened the ways they are. I rarely have any time with my wife, no or little emotional, physical, and mental support from my wife. Also during this time, my mother in-law trying to take advantage of me financially by talking to me and my wife regarding she wanting to bring her granddaughter from Vietnam to Canada and ask me to see if I can help to support her granddaughter. This is her son’s daughter in Vietnam. I refused in a nice way. I told my mother in-law, “Mom I have my own family to take care of and it is not easy like you think mom. There are lots of expenses going with that, such as car payment, insurance, health care, foods, college tuitions, etc..” My mother in-law put that issue aside. She sad and I can feel it from my wife as well. I feel after this incident, me and my wife get distance from each other and it went deep into the intimacy part of our relationship. Several times we close to each other, I feel the coldness from her body and I drop and tears running down my face and I hold her asking her what is going on?  She hold me she said nothing it just something about me. Also during this time, my wife had talked to me about her sister who came from Vietnam for about a year or so and living in California. She said the living standard in Cali very high and all that. One day, I talked to my wife and my mother in-law I am willing to help her sister’s family of 2 teenage sons, her sister, and her sister’s husband. I came up with the idea to bring her sister family over to Houston and living in the house with me and my wife until we can help them standing up of their own and move out. So her sister’s family moved in with us. I don’t ask for any money, but her sister give me $800 a month for 4 people. Me and my wife help her sister with groceries, electric, basically everything. If anyone think $800 is enough please let me know, but I don’t care. I just want to help. Because I have a good paying and handle everything for my family, my wife have so much free times to help her sister and her sister’s husband find jobs and doing all the paperwork for health care stuffs. Help with her sister’s sons school stuffs, because her sister doesn’t speak English good. With the help my wife provided for my wife’s sister family, me and my wife relationship get lost better; however, my mother in-law didn’t give up on the topic of bring her granddaughter from Vietnam. My mother in-law brought it up again and again I find a nice and similar ways to rejected. So me and my wife relationship went from better to worse, because I rejected her mother’s wishes. I continue to do everything I can to rebuild my marriage. On December of 2007, I had took on an excellent paying job at BP, making over $100,000 a year. My wife happy for me and for the family. About 3 weeks later when I started on a new job at BP, I got an email notification that someone charging my credit card of the amount of about $500. I don’t know anything about this and my wife never said anything regarding any charge that she maybe purchasing something in advance to let me know. I came home from work and asked my wife, she told me her mother and her sister borrow to buy items at Dillard’s. If that is the case why don’t you tell me or your mother tell me first honey, I asked my wife. She said nothing, just reply her mother and her sister will pay back. What if I said nothing at all? IT is not this incident that my wife allow her mother and sister taking advantage of me financially, many instances that I had noticed my wife going shopping charging our account with items she bought for our kids and me, but other items in there are also for her mother, sister, nephews, etc….. but I don’t care. I am a person who  live life with the heart. As long as my wife happy that is all I care. However, I work hard for my kids and my wife, not for everyone else on my wife’s side of the family.  After this event, and after all the failed attempts my mother in-law trying to get me help support her granddaughter, my mother in-law still doesn’t give up. One day I heard my wife, my sister in-law, my mother in-law talking about help open a business in Vietnam for her son, she asked me in front of my wife and my sister in-law. I just simply respond, “mom I don’t want to have anything to do with it, please talk to my wife.” This incident happened in close to May of 2008. I had noticed every time I rejected my wife’s mother ideas, me and my wife having problems.

In May of 2008. I am sad and stayed up one night writing my wife a letter, because she just doesn’t want to listen or talk to me so I use the letter to communicate. The main purpose of the letter is talking about the times me, my wife, and our kids don’t have with each other. Somehow my wife misunderstood the letter and angry at me thinking I am a person putting money above everything else. However, that is not the case. I talked to my wife and explained to her that is not what it means as well talking to my mother in-law. However, that night my mother in-law twisted my words around and put my wife in the middle to pick mother or me. My mother in-law said I not allowing her to spend my wife’s money. That hurt me so much so I raised my voice, I said, “Mother I didn’t said that, why you said that to my wife. I didn’t say that at all. I got executed that night for cursing at my mother in-law. I never said any curse words to anyone, but my wife said I cursed at her mother and as her as well. So I corrected my wife, I said honey, I never said any bad words to mother why you accused me of cursing at your mother. My wife said sorry. This incident make my mother in-law went back to Canada.  After she left for about 2 and a half months, she never call over to the house. My wife and I having a great times. I can see improvement in our relationship. My daughter calling me DADDY for the first time ever after my mother in-law left and go back to Canada. My daughter never has any close relationship with me when my mother in-law living here with us. My daughter running to me, kissed me and played with since my mother in-law left, which are only several months, until my wife threw me in jail and took off with my kids on November of 29^th of 2009. My love my daughter and my son so much.  They are parts of me.

We went on vacation with the kids at Orlando Disney resort in August 2008 after her mother left and went back to Canada. We have a great time. We came back home, the phone started winging again. Her mother calling from Canada. My wife felt sad after she got off the phone with her mother. I asked my wife what happened. My wife told me her mother missing the kids, missing her, and cannot eat or sleep and her mother is not in good health. This stirring up old wounds and issues for my wife. I can see sadness in my wife. I love her so much, it just she lets her love for her mother destroying our marriage. I am hurt as well, because I don’t want to lose my wife and my family falling apart because of it. I try all I can to comfort my wife. I redecorate the house with new furniture, decorate my kids’ rooms. In September of 2008, my wife hold me said to me, that what she done is wrong, asking me to give her time to rebuild the relationship. I told her time we don’t have honey. I have been living without you in my life since Vivian joined our lives, and I need you now more than anything. However, my wife stubborn not understand that she pushing me for time, but I continue to hold on and see if she change or not, she not change for the better, because the phone keep ringing and never stop. We become more distance day by day because of what information transferred to my wife over the phone.  One day she and I next to each other and I hold her in my arms, she cries, I asked her what happen? She said she sand and missing her mother. I told her I do everything I can to rebuild my relationship with her mother, but it will take times. I told her I love her. Please stay with me for the rest of my life and we and the kids will care for each other. I love you honey. I told my wife that. Again, the phone not stop ringing, I got upset and disconnected the phone. She angry at me thinking I am not allowing her to talk to her mother, but that’s not the case. I just want at this time in my marriage people need to leave us alone and I can work with my wife to repair what had broken. My wife doesn’t see things my way and think what I said to her, she determine that I am a bad person because I did that. At this point, I cannot stand it anymore so I am filling for divorce to let her see the seriousness of the problems that all these years we are facing and I am trying to fix it. After I filed for divorce in October 7, 2008, I had told me wife countless times that I never want to lose her. I want her to seek professional help but again she refused. I told her please think for our future, our kids’ future, but she never think for the marriage, the kids’ future, or our future together. She told me she will do whatever it takes to get the kids back to Canada with her mother.  She asked me  countless of times to put in my divorce decree to let her go back to Canada with the kids. With all the tension I have with my wife, I want to ease it and change my decree to make her happy and come her down so I can try to reasoning with her and hope she has a change of heart and rebuild the marriage. However, she let her stubbornness take control of her decision making and never change her mind. She keep pushing me and said if I keep her here in Texas she will be angry at me for the rest of her life and her entire family will be upset at me for controlling her and keeping her here in Texas. She told me she wants freedom to take the kids wherever she wants to go with them. I refused. I told her the kids are parts of my body and my blood. I need to be the father of my kids and help raising them as well. She doesn’t care; keep pushing me to let her go back to Canada with the kids. I told her, I love her and she had been raised in the environment without a father figure, and I don’t want that happened to my kids. I am a good husband and a good father, please stay here in Houston, Texas for the shake of the kids so they can have a father relationship. Again, she doesn’t care. My wife doesn’t see a father figure in my kids’ lives that important.  Also my wife had told me that she already has plans to apply for government assistance to help raising my kids.  I don’t like that at all. My kids are my responsibilities. I should be responsible for them and as should she. We need to work together raising our kids. I don’t need assistance from government to support to raise my kids. I don’t want my kids to grow up and live life without responsibilities and always depend on the government to help them. I live and contribute to our society, not taking from society and I want my kids to have the same idea and believe like me. Be self sufficient. My wife doesn’t see that point of view as a good thing. My wife and my mother in-law used the love I have for the kids against me and control me. I am a person who value so much in a marriage and care for my kids’ future that is why I am holding in and trying to work things out with my wife. However, again and again my wife just let her mother rule the house and my wife do whatever she please to fulfill her mother happiness instead think and living for our marriage and the kids.

November of 2008, the critical month for our marriage, because everything happened in this month. I asked for a month from my work to stay home working things out and rescue my marriage. We still living together in the house after I filed for divorce. We constantly having great times with the kids and going out to eat all the times. Also during this time I can see my wife still love me and show feeling for me. However, her feeling leading to confusion for me. One day she said she still love me, the next day she said she doesn’t want me to touch her. One day she let me kiss her, the next she said she doesn’t  think we can live together. Because of all the things going on and confusion, I talked to my wife and said, look at all the years that I am trying to work with you to correct our marriage problems and now you treating me like this, please work with me and help our marriage and our kids’ future.  Please give us one last chance.

One day she talked to my mother and said to my mother she no longer loving me. This after the first criminal case she filed against me “Family abuse”. She is the one who bailed me out and she is the one who asked me to get a lawyer to get the case drop. I did hire a lawyer, her name is Belinda Brown. My wife told my lawyer that she will do everything to get the case drop. She told me what she has done was wrong. After she bailed me out, she willing and continue let me stay in the same house with her. I though she regrets what she did so I stay at the house.  However, she again playing with the love I have for her and the kids and confused the heck out of me. During the time I stay with her, we went out again having good times with the kids. I remember during one of the conversation we have about our marriage problems, my wife told me Vivian was a mistake. My God, how can she say that? We actually planned to have Vivian and reading articles about how to conceive to have a baby girl. Now she said having Vivian is a mistake. It hurt me so much because Vivian was seating next to me. My tears running down my face when I heard it from my wife’s mouth. One morning she pushed me to a point that I have to committed suicide. At the time I decided to overdose myself, I have a mind set like this, I had tried everything I can to rescue my kids’ future by doing everything. I do everything with my wife to rescue my kids’ future, but no one care, especially my wife who already knew what she done was not right but still determine to end everything.

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